July 11, 2019 by Al Imran
I begin With The Name of ALLAH, The Beneficent and The Merciful, بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Bismillah hirRahman nirRaheem. Please read a Durood Shareef first, SallALLAHU ‘Ala Mu’hammad SallALLAHU Alayhe Wasallam
Recommendations for Love in Islam, An Outcome of Dating by Muslim
Tech savvy Muslim teens these days chat with their friends and relatives through a number of social networking sites. Moreover, televisions and smartphones have snatched the interaction between the family members of the home. Kids have lost their adolescence and innocence. Side effects of technology have not only harmed this but even our health also.
No or Lack of our punctuality in namaz. Muslim youth is now more prone towards the path of Shaitan. Gradually, getting involved in haram relationships is really a Shaitan’s conspiracy against the slaves of ALLAH Azzawajal. If you are one of among them and want to break haram relationship then please refrain yourself from these datings and lonely meetings with a non-mahram. We possess a weak Deen which can easily be shaken by the Shaitan. Most of the love marriage in Islam is generally an outcome of the Muslim dating websites.
When you love someone just love for the sake of ALLAH and get married in a Halal way
What to do?
If you have a love for someone and he/she also love you back. Do not commit sin. If you both want to marry each other. Just follow the proper steps as according to Islam. Approach his/her parents through your parents and try to make the parents agree. Speak with them in a very calm and cool manner to let them understand your situation. Do not try to black them emotionally.
This will create a hatred for you in their hearts. If it’s not working you can get in touch with your elder brother or sister who can discuss this issue with your parents. Never try to hide anything from them. Always speak truth from the beginning.
Falling in Love Allowed in Islam
In short and precise I would say Off Course Yes!
Islam never prohibits anyone to love someone. Love is an emotion that has been created by ALLAH Subhanahu Wata ‘Ala. You can love someone and even you can marry him/her. But never indulge with the Shaitan’s activities and commit any kind of sins in your relationship. This is what Shaitan is waiting for. If you love someone you can approach her parents as this usually happens in arrange marriage.
ALLAH Azzawajal says in The Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Al Maidah Verse #5:
This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who are losers.
ALLAH Azzawajal says in The Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Al-Israa Verse #32:
Do not even go near zina (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!
ALLAH Azzawajal says in The Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Ar-Rome Verse #21:
And among His (ALLAH’s) Signs is this that HE created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them; and HE has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.
Now, I am sure you will get to know the doubts of love in Islam. Love is an emotion created by ALLAH Ta’ala.
Love Marriage in Islam Muslim Dating Outcome Rules
What to do if you love someone?
- Do not indulge in any kind of sin.
- Pure intention of marriage.
- Tell your parents. In a very polite manner let your parents know about your love.
- Approach her parents with a marriage proposal. As in arrange marriage.
- In case they rejected, do not go against them with a sprint marriage.
- Let them take their time. Till then contact an elderly (Buzurg) person from their relations who can convince. Let that Buzurg talk to her parents.
- Insha ALLAH they will become agree and you will get married soon, Ameen.
- Else, you need to wait more..to convince them…